“How-to-move-through-shitty-times.” A short manual.

There are times in life when we feel down, when we are not sure where we are heading any longer.

It seems like we have lost direction, the Light has stopped shining upon us, we feel trapped and confused.

We are down. We look around and see that everyone else is doing great, but us. “Why? What is wrong with me? “ Some of us are too shy and too embarrassed to ask for help, and so we dwell in the dark, cooking in our own ‘mind soup’, believing it all. “I really fucked it up this time.”

Everything seems to be falling apart and we feel like lost kids, left all alone, no guidance, no direction, and no manual on ‘How to go through shitty times’.
No one seems to understand what we are going through. No one knows, no one gets it, everyone is too busy dealing with their own stuff. And those who do find the time to listen to our crying heart pouring will not get it anyway as it is impossible to put in words how broken and how lost we feel.

Sounds familiar?
Yes? We are the members of the same club then, and that is a great thing.
I have been to that place so many times, that I stopped taking it seriously. It is like “Oh, another learning curve. I see! Let get straight to the point.” I guess I will go there as many times as needed for my stubborn rigid Self to finally get the lesson. I am the type that learns from own experiences. I look in the mirror at times and say “Not very bright, are You?” I am just making you smile, I do love my precious weird Self, I just like laughing at it too 

I am hoping that you are smarter than me and you will get it from someone else’s words rather than your experience. There is no need to suffer more than it is necessary. So next time when you feel down, you will remember that there was this funny piece written by this strange girl, the member of ‘Self-Re-Start’ club, and You will read through it and, hopefully feel better.

Let’s cover two important subjects here and approach them from the yogic point of view:

Why on Earth do we suffer so much?
and
What to do when we do?

WHY DO WE SUFFER?

“Disillusion is a painful process.”

Beloved.
Please understand that it is through our suffering, through our pain that we rise above our human little mindedness and our cute arrogant selves that are obsessed with self-importance and emotional comfort. We think we are the center of the world and we should be happy all the time. And if you think that, I agree with you 100%
If it was up to us, we would just have it super-duper-great-going all the time. I absolutely would! That would be refreshing and awesome, maybe one day (I still hope). We don’t want to suffer, we don’t want to feel pain in places inside that we did not know we had. We avoid suffering and pain so much that sometimes we avoid living all together. Is that a way to live a life?

Imagine, each morning some higher voice speaks to us all and says: “Who wants to suffer today, darlings? Raise your hand!” Hm. Let us think. No one!!!

Here is a good question to meditate on: How on Earth will we ever learn the meaning of life voluntarily? Let us be honest here – We are not that enlightened, no one will agree to suffering, Ok, maybe a few heroic ones….. if it is for some great cause, like “Suffer-and You-will-Save-the-world.” Perhaps we will find a few heroes.

Most of us? If we just could move through life with no troubles, no obstacles, no challenges, happy-go-lucky, eating crap (pardon my Russian!), not paying attention to what IS or other people’s needs or the state of the world around us. La-la-la. La-la. Why bother make any effort, why change, why pay attention, why learn? I am happy as I am! Right?

I doubt we would get anywhere with an attitude like that. So we must embrace those special times of learning when we are down. It might seem like a shitty time, BUT… In a bigger picture of life: It is a blessing in disguise, an open invitation to grow, to change, to become a better version of Yourself. Sooner or later you will see it for yourself, you just don’t see it now. And that is OK.

We are humans. The only way we learn is through suffering.
We wake up through it. We shed illusions. We get to see what is real and what is not. Someone once said “Disillusion is a painful process.” I could not agree more.
The sooner we embrace this, the better it is for us.

I tell you this: if I had not been so sick, that I could hardly move or breathe; if I had not been so broken and challenged, that I wanted to die; if I had not been so lost in the dark and despair that I thought it was the end of my life as I know it……….I would have never learned anything of real value in this life. I would have never got to see what I am made of.

It is those times that made me a believer in great stuff.
It is those times that turned my face towards the Light and Faith.
It is those times that made me compassionate and loving Human Being.
It is those times that made me meet and fall in love with the most important person in my life- Me!

So, why do we suffer?
Because we are being polished, like diamonds! You are a diamond in progress. You will get through this. One day you will look back at this stage of your life and you will smile at how exciting, how deeply meaningful your life journey is, how great that is that you are YOU….and just how awesome you are. YOU will love yourself, respect and value yourself. And we all know where that kind of vibe leads

WHAT TO DO NOW?

Acceptance is the key to moving forward.

-Take a deep breath and tell yourself “It is OK to be where I am. I am alive. I am learning. I am in progress.”

-Accept Yourself as You are. Surrender to what IS. It is what it IS. Stop fighting it.

-Help Yourself to get out of your mind. Go to nature! Take a barefoot walk in the woods or on the beach.

-Call a dear friend who cares about you (I am sure you have those, if you have not, rather than beating yourself up for being such an ass, start making them now!) Share your heart as it is with someone you trust. Have courage to be honest. Be authentic. Ability to be authentic is the only way to experience perfection for a human being. If you dare to be authentic, you are perfect. Remember? You are a diamond in progress!

-Start doing something that makes you feel good about Yourself, at least one thing. If you lack motivation and feel like you have no energy left to fight for your Light any longer…. know this – one tiny change is all it takes to create a difference, to make a shift in how you feel right now. You are the only one who knows what that small thing is and where it is. Find it! Pull it out and press the Self-Re-Start button.

-Drink plenty of healthy liquids (not cold)! Good water, yogi tea or your favorite tea.

-Spend time with what you call “Me”. Listen. Learn. Let Yourself happen.

-Make an effort to make the best out of this special time. I know it sounds weird, but the truth is –
Things change all the time. We are all changing all the time. We are fluid; we are walking breathing clouds of liquid light. And this very moment, this day, this breath that we take right now will never be repeated…… they are not words. Once gone, they are gone forever. This part of your journey will be over soon, it will change and transform into another form, another experience. Be a wise cookie. Make the best out of it. Life is always right!

Much love from one member of the ’Self-Re-Start’ club to another. We are One!